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Don't
Let Stress Ruin Your Planning,
or Your Big
Day
 Many brides spend months, if
not years, planning their wedding day.
Brides to be find themselves striving for
a “perfect” celebration for their spouse
to be, family and friends. They pour their
hearts into planning, then organizing, a
ceremony and party to be remembered.
Planning a huge event is stressful, which is
why party planning is such a huge (and
expensive) industry. Many brides decide to do
all the planning themselves and before they
know what is happening, the signs of stress
appear. Maybe, the BTB screams at her mom or
best friend, alienates her groom, gains 10
pounds or breaks out in acne or hives. Symptoms
of stress vary widely, and any abnormal
behavior may indicate a breaking point.
It doesn't have to be that way! Just like
you create a plan for the reception, you can
plan to avoid stress. Recognize your body's
signs of overload. Shallow breathing, racing
thoughts, sweaty palms and “snippiness” with
those you love. If you start to feel
overloaded, try these tips:
1. Breathe! Americans tend to breathe
shallowly. If you feel stress overcoming you,
taking the time to consciously breathe deeply
can go a long way to calming both your body,
and your mind. Take a deep breath, hold for the
count of four; breathe out slowly, count to
four again. Do this until you feel your heart
slow down and peace begin to return.
2. Delegate. Yes, you run the risk that the
tablecloths won't exactly match the
cummerbunds, but really, no one at the party
will care, except you. Have friends and family
pitch in, pick up flowers, rings or CDs for the
party. The best managers, and party planners,
know the secret to success is letting go and
allowing others to help you.
3. Find time for you. Between fittings,
tastings, and a to-do list as long as your arm,
it is imperative that you find a few minutes
every day, to just let go and not worry about
it all. Take a long bath, get your nails done,
read a magazine, best-go for a walk. Your body,
and your soul, will appreciate it
4. Acknowledge that no one is perfect and no
wedding in the history of the world has gone
off without a hitch. Yes, the day is important,
but what is most important is that you are
marrying the love of your life. Remember that,
as truly the day is about your love-not the
color of the flowers, and allow yourself to
laugh if the ring bearer breaks out into a song
and dance routine in the middle of the
nuptials. Many long married couples look back
fondly at the impromptu “problems” as the high
point of their celebrations. Though my sister
in law was appalled at the time, she now
remembers my nephew's big dance number as one
of the best parts of the whole day.
5. Which leads me to my final stress
relieving tip--LAUGH! Laughter forces your
muscles to relax and is proven to be one the
best ways to let off steam. Watch a comedy,
play a loving prank on your spouse to be, talk
about your most embarrassing moment with your
best friend or go on date with your man to a
comedy club. Sometimes laughter is the,
cheapest, and best, medicine. 
There, take a deep breathe and laugh
hysterically.
Your heart, future spouse and mother will all
be grateful.
Here's to your successful and
marvelous day!
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